Where are the men?
Isn’t this a conversation girlfriends have at
least once a month?
Every two weeks?
Shoot from some of us every week.
I dare not say everyday.
So where are they? They have been several theories as to why
women are single- especially black women. Too picky, too judgmental, too crazy,
too fat, too skinny, too ugly, too much drama, too mean, too loud, too- too-too
mutha effing too…what is a woman to do?
I can name five beautiful, great, terrific women, right now,
that are single. These women aren’t just single, these women aren’t dating- no
prospects…single. And it has me confused. On paper and yes I said on paper,
these women have it going on. Their own place some even homeowners, career or
great jobs (there is a difference), degree holders or college students. They
have good credit, good personalities; just good catches all around but still
single.
Now I would be remiss if I didn’t say that each one didn’t
have issues they were dealing with, but who doesn’t? Show me someone that
doesn’t have any issues and I will say to you “hey you do know we are standing
in a cemetery right” (meaning these folks are dead so of course they don’t have
any issues).
Sometimes I wonder, if I was a guy…first off, I’d have a lot of
explaining to do-sorry…would I be one that wanted to enjoy the fact that there
are just so many women at my disposal or would I be like the female me and want
to be in a loving relationship.
I honestly think men have it so much easier when it comes to
getting into a relationship and I’m sure there are men that disagree with me
but I can’t help how I feel. I just do.
So back to my opening question where are the men? And honest
question- what is a guy looking for in a potential mate? I know that
preferences and tastes change from person to person but I think most women want
the same basic thing; a man who is a good person, honest, has all his teeth,
smells nice, easy on the eyes, and has a nice personality. I’m sure this sounds
like a thirteen year old wrote it…probably because that when we start thinking
about what a boyfriend should be like.
While I do not endorse his newfound relationship guru
status, Steve Harvey constantly says on his show that a woman holds all the
cards in a relationship. She is the one that sets the tone. She has to let the
guy know what she will deal with or not deal with and if he can’t hang then she
needs to move on. I find this pretty interesting coming from a twice divorced
guy…but I guess the third time is a charm. Now lets say that all that is true
that still doesn’t mean that a woman will find her ideal mate which leads me to
another piece of advice Mr. Harvey offered…don’t be so selective and perhaps
date older. I would like to go on record and say just because a guy is older
than you DOES not mean that he has his shit together. And what exactly is selective.
I think if I said my ideal mate would be 6’6, one hazel eye, one brown, looked
like Boris Kodjoe, could cook like that Neeley guy, and made six figures-that
would constitute as unrealistic standards because where would I meet this
guy…surely not in the places my extremely less than six figures earning ass
frequent. I mean unless this guy likes the $1.50 movie.
I’d like to note that many men frequent the $1.50 movie theater
but these men typically are trying to compete for homecoming king.
Where are the men, well I don't know. So let the search begin…to be continued.
