a love

i'm in a love affair that's rare and hard to compare. a love that lifts me up when i am in despair-

holds me tight-knows when i wanna be loved and understands if i wanna fight (because sometimes I need to scream)

a love that will last until the end of time because i am his and he is mine.

a love that recognizes that sometimes i am weak and may need to cry and because of this his shoulder he will supply (until I am calm)

other girls maybe prettier and fine but all of that falls by the wayside when he looks into my eyes (and knows he is home)

no need to play private eye because if i need to spy-then he was never mine (and i really don't have time for that)...

this love fills me up in ways that i can't describe no matter how hard i try (so i don't- i just smile)

naive, no i'm not because i know to have what we got-takes alot (but its worth it)

sad to say- none of this is true but one day when i find you...i'll be able to say i'm in a love affair that's rare...




(I wrote this in May and it's been sitting here in my drafts...but I had to share it)

Who you callin a Bitch?

Boss Bitch, Five Star Bitch, Gangsta Bitch, Ryde or Die Bitch...uh so let me get this straight its cool for a man to call you a bitch as long as he puts one of these phrases/adjectives in front of it?


I don't get it?


**Well first let me put this disclaimer out-I so wanted to be a gangsta bitch.  When Apache's Gangsta Bitch dropped some fifteen years ago I really thought that was me (I have since come to terms that I am a L7, albeit a cool one but a L7 all the same aka square). I really did but I just could never wrap my head around the idea of someone -man, woman or child-calling me a bitch. Even when the hype man asks "do the bitches run this mutha fa ya" I hesitate because I think- well them ladies are running it but I'm not to sure about the bitches.


Bitch has never been a term of endearment for me. I have never addressed my girlfriends as bitch. When I say it-oh I mean. And yes I must admit I dropped the b word a time or two or maybe a thousand but this new age of the bitch word confuses me. Why would anyone want to be a 5 Star Bitch? What makes a 5 Star Bitch special because if you follow the lyrics, the girl he is describing would Not want to be called a bitch or even 5 Star. Why 5 stars? Ed McMahon thought 4 stars were a perfect score on Star Search. Perhaps more things rhyme with 5 than 4- who knows? I just know don't refer to me as a 5 Star Bitch cuz the shit is stupid.


And what about Boss Bitch...Rick Ross and Meek Mill calls themselves A Boss, why not just say that? Why be a Boss Bitch?


Now before I come off as a self-righteous bitch let me say that hey I know people- men and women- who actually deserve to be called bitch or even elongating the word and calling them a biiiiiitch. Or shortening it to a fast and cut bitch-I get this. I really do. What I don't get is how we have allowed it to be a describing factor to all, good, bad, or indifferent. Now fools going around saying "you are a non-mother fucking factor bitch"- BBW- really but that saying and that show deserve a blog entry of their own, so I'm going to tiptoe away from that (for now).


The fact is, no one wants to be called a bitch. You don't. That same girl that has 5 Star Bitch tattooed on her leg would go bat shit crazy if some girl called her a bitch, "Oh that bitch, with 5 Stat Bitch tattooed on her leg, yeah I know her" <---and then 5 Star gonna turn into Queen Latifah "who you calling a bitch" uh you dummy. You got your calling card inked on your leg-duh. Or when a man is trying to holla at you and you politely turn him down and then BOOM "well fuck you, you ugly bitch! I was trying to do you a favor." <---now that's not nice. You can't have it both ways; I mean I get it, you were just rejected but what is wrong with saying "Chick"?


Yes it is misogynistic might even be dated or juvenile but is bitch better?  Yeah...it is.